Caring for a child with special needs

Foster care

Confession: I don’t usually write about my extra children until they leave us, but little Angel Boy is an ongoing part of our lives for now. I feel deep respect for both him and his family, and will not share photos or case-sensitive information concerning him. The things I write in this post have been […]

January 26, 2015

Who said sugar and spice is for girls?


One night I watched little boy L playing with dishes in the bath. He held a toy cupcake tin in one hand, level, and with the other he carefully poured the smallest possible amount of water out of a teapot into each of the six holes. Then he set the teapot aside, chose a measuring cup, and […]

October 14, 2014

The house of tomorrow

Foster care

I always say that Ryan is the one who had fostering in his blood, not me. But tonight I remembered a poem I loved before I was married. I used to sing it to myself, because it got inside my heart and tugged. Maybe it was a premonition. I never thought so then. Foster Baby […]

October 11, 2014

Why two heads are better than one

Foster care, Life around home

In everything from food committees to parenting five kids for the weekend (which is the fun we are currently engaged in) TWO–says Solomon–are better than ONE. And I wouldn’t want to disagree with him. I made a graph to portray this phenomenon. It’s titled Variations on Reality. Have I ever mentioned that I couldn’t handle […]

October 5, 2014

Ten tips for busy moms

Foster care, Life around home

Confession: I forgot what it was like to be a really busy mommy. I had four kids this week instead of three—the fourth a precious boy we got to parent for a week and a half. I’m probably not allowed to say more than that, and I can’t post any pictures of him here even […]

August 21, 2014

Fostering update

Foster care

On December 2, they delivered it to our house: the paper that makes it official. For a period of one year, Ryan and Shari Zook have been approved as foster parents. I can hardly believe it. Two months of scurrying activity—training, paperwork, fingerprints, paperwork, background checks, paperwork, home inspections, paperwork—fire extinguishers mounted, smoke alarms functional, […]

January 3, 2014