Oh my word. I think that came out wrong. I meantasay, shopping for *gifts* for guys.
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Confession: I think men are impossibly difficult to buy gifts for.
I don’t understand this about myself. I love giving gifts. I love selecting gifts. I love brainstorming gifts. But when holiday time rolls around for my husband, I am blank. Christmastime, birthday time, Valentine’s Day… oh man, why didn’t I start thinking of this three months ago?!
I think I care about it too much.
For giving to men in general, in the words of my new friend Christy: “it only needs to be good—not perfect.”
For my significant other, I must think of a) what he wants, b) what he needs, c) what he likes, d) what fits the occasion, e) in short, what is good, acceptable, AND exactly perfect… plus f) affordable. He is not the kind of man who likes me to break the bank to melt his heart. In fact, gifts mean much less to him than they do to me. Which adds to the futility of trying to find the perfect one.
Sigh.
My friend Christy, mentioned above, composed a lovely list of gift suggestions for men.
I think you’ll enjoy it as much as I did. Click here to view the list, posted on her charming blog Marital Bliss with a Kiss of Reality.
What provides you with inspiration for giving to guys? A list, a website, an idea or two?Want to share it with the rest of us?
Women, on the other hand, are so easy to shop for that most of us guys wait until the last minute to start shopping for gifts. Some of us even look for gifts after the fact, that is, after the gift is technically-due-but-not-yet-completely-irrelevant.
There are only two gifts that I can think of, that are perfect. Peanut butter cream pie, and gift cards for Amazon.com.
Dear Alvin,
Thank you for solving a gift dilemma. WHY didn’t *I*, o Perfect Wifey that I may or may not be, think of that!?!?!
Sincerely,
7thValentines and not getting easier
ps. Any ideas on where to buy a good peanut butter pie? 🙂
When I saw the title, I thought………”Ohhhhhhhhhhh my goodness!!!! Is she really going to write about THAT!!!???” 🙂
Sometimes I think the best gift(s) I can give my husband are the ones where I invest time and thought rather than money.
But I love to buy gifts too………so……..
But it’s very (!) difficult(!!!) to find something at the store that will mean much of anything to him. When we were dating he was thrilled with cute little stuffed animals that sang crazy love songs or pictures of me. Now he says he’d rather just look at me. ??? Men are strange.
I constantly feel like I have to ask myself – Who are you loving, yourself or him?
a cute nightie…for yourself…;)
Ah yes . . . men can be tough to shop for . . . but I do it any way. My Dh thankfully does love a good puzzle now and then. That helps. I once “kidnapped” him. That was probably my best and most successful “gift” ever . . . He thought we were just going out to eat supper and had NO CLUE that I had carefully checked that we had enough points accumulated to stay at a hotel for TWO nights for free, had lined up baby sitting, had cancelled his jobs behind his back (!) and had a packed suitcase in the back of the vehicle. So when we had eaten supper, and he said, “What do you want to do yet?” and I said, “What do YOU want to do?” and he said, “If I did what I felt like, I would get a hotel and we could just spend some time together for awhile longer” I smiled and calmly said, “Why don’t we?” And he thought that I was joking for the longest time and it was very funny. He could hardly believe I had pulled all that off on him, but he loved it, and it’s a very good memory from the past. 😉
Wow! I applaud your hard work and creative genius!