Update: As of 1:00 pm on December 1, 2017, this giveaway is closed.
Confession: Sometimes I need to be reminded that it’s going to be okay.
This is not the same thing as pretending it’s okay when it’s not, as I wrote in my last post – I mean I need to be reminded that it’s going to be okay in the end.
I’ve never been sure if I’m a pessimist or an optimist, because I try to put a good face on everything, especially if you meet up with me in real life, but hidden inside myself I’m often sure we’re all going down, boys. My husband, on the other hand, has more than his share of snark and cynicism, but underneath it all, a constant certainty that we’ve turned the corner. He’s relaxed, it’s going to end well, and life is good.
What do you call that?
I love his steady perspective and rely on it more heavily than anyone guesses (except him) (and sometimes not even him), but from time to time I really need to hear a woman older than me say that it’s going to be okay. What is the “it”? It’s mothering, pastor’s wife-ing, mistakes, canning season, science experiments in the boys’ bedroom, wintertime, life. It may not be easy, but it’s going to be okay.
This week I remembered why I love Dorcas Smucker so much as an author and a friend: she’s a beautiful optimist. The ugly kind of optimist is the one that denies any hardship or pain, but delights in throwing solutions around. Stop crying, hon. Chin up. The beautiful kind of optimist is the one who’s seen a lot, handled a lot, freaked out a lot, and come full circle to the satisfying rest of experienced living: not much is worth hyperventilating about. Relax, hon. Cry, breathe, smile. Try again.
Dorcas recently released a new book, Fragrant Whiffs of Joy, a fresh collection of the newspaper articles she writes for the Eugene Register-Guard. She’s stopping by here today (kum ba ya, my Lord) to share a copy with you.
When I sit with Dorcas, which isn’t nearly often enough, she usually has a cup of tea in hand. She’s been an important sounding board for me in writing, mothering, and letting go of shame.
The book itself is like a cup of tea: relaxing, fragrant, warm. She writes about her ninety-eight-year old father, her six grown children off to college, her blackberries, her jam-packed schedule, and her cats. She sends texts to the wrong people, wilts in the heat of summer, makes lists, buys too much fabric, assembles a pot roast to put in the oven. You can see her bustling around, loving people, laughing with children, canning grape juice. And saying, “It’s going to be okay.”
This book contains my best-of-the-best, all-time favorite Dorcas Smucker quotes, the one that has graced a chalkboard on my wall for two years: “This is what it means to be an adult, I think: to make peace with the life you didn’t foresee, to see spiritual significance in the daily repeated tasks, and to find fulfillment in doing them well.” That’s from one of my favorite chapters, “Love on a Plate and Fragrant Whiffs of Joy.” (p. 13)
Another favorite chapter, that kept me laughing upon multiple re-readings, is “Heavy Burdens in a Hot Summer,” in which Dorcas pulls back a memory of directing a Christmas play. One young girl acted the part of a poor mother clutching her baby through a snow storm. Dorcas writes,
She had one line to say: “Oh, I am so weary and cold.”
Thankfully I had a sense of humor, and the girl who played this part was not easily discouraged, because for some reason she could not recite that line. “Oh I am so tired and hungry!” she would say before collapsing into the snowbank: a pile of quilt batting from the sewing circle, covered with a white sheet.
“No, no.”
Back up the aisle I sent her. A slow turn, and toward the front again, into the wind: “I am so weary and tired!”
“No! WEARY and COLD.”
“Oh, I am so cold and hungry!”
I am not sure that she ever got it right, even on the night of the program. I should have let her ad lib, I guess, because she had the right idea. The original line is now seared into my memory, and I always think of it at times like this.
Sometimes, in certain seasons of life, it feels like we’re all weary and cold, fighting our way into the winter wind. Our shawl isn’t nearly enough protection, and we are about to collapse into the snowbank with the baby in our arms… It seems we will never reach the front of the church, and we certainly won’t hear the miraculous chimes when they ring in the steeple on Christmas Eve. Health issues, difficult relationships, financial stresses, caregiving – all of these can seem like trials that will never end. (p. 60)
I think you need this book.
If you’re interested in owning a copy, you have two choices: one whimsical and one practical. First, you may leave a comment below and be entered in a drawing to win one copy that Dorcas and I are giving away today. Second, you can order the book directly from Dorcas – that way it’s guaranteed.
Or you can try the first option first, and if that doesn’t work, go on to the second. That ought to do the trick.
Dorcas’s earlier books (also delightful) are available on her blog:
Ordinary Days
Upstairs the Peasants are Revolting
Downstairs the Queen is Knitting
Tea and Trouble Brewing
Footprints on the Ceiling
Sunlight Through Dusty Windows: The Dorcas Smucker Reader
To order a book, contact Dorcas Smucker at 31148 Substation Drive, Harrisburg, OR 97446, or [email protected]. Fragrant Whiffs of Joy is priced at $12 each plus $2 postage. Checks or PayPal accepted. Discounts available for combination orders. Also available here on Amazon.
Would you like to own this book? Please drop a comment below; I’d love to hear from you.
I was given three copies of FWOJ – one to give to a blog reader, one to give to a personal friend who had a tough year, and one to keep. Giveaway will close in one week. Open to US residents only. Winner will be chosen by random.org.
Update: As of December 1, 2017, this giveaway is closed.






I was recently given your blog link by a friend….I am subscribed for life….what an encouragement, the first few blogs I read, have been to me! God’s blessings to you for enriching others!!! Cheryl Ehst
Have a great day! I’d love to win. ?
The book sounds delightful
I would love to win this book! I love all her books.
Wouldn’t it be great if I’d win??….. No postage or packaging for you!
I think you’d qualify for the friend that’s had a tough year. 🙂 Blessings to you and your daughter. I hope you win.
Mom!! You commented! 🙂 🙂
I wouldn’t mind winning a good read! ?
To quote my boys – “I want, I want, I want!” smirk
A comment. Any comment? Yes, I am in need of this kind of new breeze as well.
I enjoy your blog and it would be fun to win this book!
I’d like to own this book. 🙂
I have really enjoyed Dorcas’s previous books, and would be delighted to add this to my pile.
I’ve read most of her other books….and enjoyed them! I really need this one, too! 🙂
Sounds like a good Chris gift for my mom….that I would read first.
I Would love to read her new book! Sounds delightful!
Thanks for sharing…pl add my name to the basket! Faith H
I have all kinds of whiffs at my house…a fragrant whiff would be so welcomed! 🙂
Laughing with my boys over this comment!
I just found this blog from someone’s what’s app status. It’s what I need. God bless you as you serve Him!!!
I love her books- so fun and refreshing!
crossing my fingers…….I’d love to win this. 🙂
Dorcas is one of those people I’m looking forward to someday getting to know- hopefully in a relaxed sort of way over a cup of tea. For now I’ll have to be content with her books.
Sounds like another good book by Dorcas!!!
Sounds so refreshing! Thanks for the reminder that “it will be okay in the end” -needed that reminder this morning.
Whiffs of joy around this time include pumpkin pie, sweet potatoes, Carmel lattes . I would love to give this book to a friend of mine who has had a trying year as a single mom .
I’d love to win! I enjoy Dorcas’ writings…
Discovered your blog through another friend’s blog. Enjoy your perspective. Would love to win this book.
I’d love to read this book.
I’ll try winning this book one more time, before I go and order it for myself.
Would enjoy reading the book.
I would love to win this book! A person can never have too many good books to read and I know this one would be good!!
I enjoy Dorcas’ writings very much! Would love to enjoy more!
I’ve long been a reader of Dorcas’ blog. She cracks me up and reassures me and is so relatable. So much wisdom from a mom who’s been there. I’d love to win a copy of this book!
I like your writing style and I would like very much to read one of Dorcas’s books!
Lovely review… and I’d love to win this book!
I love her books and her writing style. I’d be delighted to own the book!
I love Dorcas’s books! And your blog 🙂
I love your review and I would love to win this book.
Would love to win a new book-I love to read!
I would love to read her book.
Long been a fan of Dorcas’ writing and would love to win this book!
I would also love to win this book.:)
Don’t see the comment I tried posting before, so I’ll try again cause I really want to win this book! ?
I ordered a copy on Amazon today! But I would like to subscribe to Dorcas blog. I missed the address
Here it is
http://www.dorcassmucker.blogspot.com
Thank you, Regina. That is correct.
You articulated the optimism/pessimism/realism dilemma so well. Thank you! And Dorcas’s writing is delightful: if you’re the one who introduced me (I can’t remember now), then thank you!
I would love to win this book!
Sounds like a good book for helping a mom gain fresh perspective!
Would love to win!
She (and you!!!) have a way with words that articulates what I need so many times. Thanks for entering me.
Would love to win this book!
Ah yes, I’d love to win! And I’ve so enjoyed her blog tour.
Meeting lots of new bloggers.
Well, I wasn’t actually going to enter the giveaway for really dumb reasons but now that I’m a reader of this blog now, I figure why not? So here I am.
I would love to win this book!! I keep wanting to order some of her books!!
Janae
Never read any of her books… Keep up with her blog, tho.
Looks like a good book!
Whee! I missed this book on Anita’s blog, but imagine a second chance!
I’d love to read this and then pass it to my mom, who is an avid Dorcas fan.
Winning something from a blog giveaway would be good; having it be Dorcas’s book would be even better!
Pick me, pick me.
Now I really want to read this!
Well so far I have not had any luck winning a book, though I have faithfully commented for two long weeks! ? I feel lucky on this, the last day. Fingers crossed! P.S. I have all if Dorcas’s other books. Big fan right here.
I love her books! Would have bought one today but the store I was in didn’t have them yet… of course I’d rather win one anyway ?
I could definitely use a whimsical whiff of joy! Please enter my name!
Feel like I am repeating everyone else- but yes, it would be fun to win Dorcas’ book. And thanks for your blog as well!
I enjoy Dorcas’s writings, and yours too, I’ve discovered!
I would love to read this book! ?
Yes, please.
I’ve enjoyed Dorcas’ other books and would love to read this one too!
Since you and Dorcas are two of my favourite bloggers, I must enter my name here. You both inspire me so much.
oops, ignore me. I’m not from the US.
Oh hey, come on. Surely you have an American friend who could be persuaded to “borrow” the book until you get to visit her? 🙂 All I need is an American mailing address to send it to, and you’re good.
That’s up to you. But thanks for your kind words.
Along with everyone else commenting, I’d love to win this book! 😉 And I really like your evaluation of optimism, you put into words some of my thoughts!
Sniff sniff. Smells like a book I’d love to read. 🙂
I’ve been hearing a lot about this book and would like to read it. So, I’ll take a try at option #1.
I would love to win this book! 🙂
Yes I’ll try this then if this doesn’t work out I’ll order it.
If I counted right, this is the 15th time I entered to win Dorcas’ book…does that make me an optimist? (Or just greedy for a freebie?!!) 😉
I love Dorcas writings and would love to win this new book.
I love all her books! So commmon, down-to-earth, easy to identify with accounts
You are right. I need this book! 🙂
Pick me!!
Winning her book would be such a treat!
Oh please, random.org, pick me. 🙂
I COULD just go order one, couldn’t I??
Me please! For the hundredth time.. 🙂
I’d love to read this book!
I have read Dorcas’ other books over and over. And I’m so happy I now know about your blog too!
I’d love to win this book. I’ve only read one of her books but I’d like to read them all.
Dorcas’ writing always warms my heart and makes me hope to be as inspiring as her when I’ve lived as many years.
Can’t say I’ve read any of Dorcas’ books…I suppose now would be a great time to change that!
Enjoy her blog and books! Would be delighted to be the winner!
Sounds interesting! I haven’t read any of her books. I would also enjoy wrapping and giving it to a close friend who is going through some rough times.
Just read your previous blog post as well, and it confirmed that my next post to write will be “Silver Linings.” It’s more than okay to admit the clouds of gray are not okay.
And I enjoy Dorcas Smucker, even though I’m not a mother. I would love this book!
I’d love to win one 🙂
I would love to win the book! And I like your blog, too!
Hi! I would really enjoy this book!
I don’t usually win these things, but hey it’s worth a try! 🙂 I want to read it and pass it onto my mom!
You make me want to read this book! I would be delighted to win it. 🙂
Thank you for sharing the quote from Dorcas about adulthood and making peace with the life you didn’t foresee…that quote made me stop and take the time to enter in hopes of winning the book. ?
I would love to win this book!
I’d love to have some good reading material this winter!
How thrilling to win this book! I love her style of writing.
As much as I love reading Dorcas’s writings, I don’t own any of her books. Winning one would remedy that. ?
Love to read this book!!
Good review, thanks!
Looks like a good read!
I would love to win this book for my friend who has had a hard time this year.
I love to read so would enjoy this for sure:)
Another giveaway! One more try at winning!?This book would be the perfect birthday gift to myself lol! Just the encouragement this mom needs! And I’d love to share it with friends/family. Pls pick me!! ?
I love the honesty of your blog! I too enjoy Dorcas’s down to earth writing.
I like your description of a beautiful optimist. And I would love to have a copy of Dorcas’ newest book.
would love this book
I’d love to win this book!
I don’t think I’ve ever won a giveaway… maybe this will be a first?
I’d be happy to win this for a friend.
My mom has several of Dorcas’s books. I am currently borrowing one and enjoying reading it aloud to my husband. If I would win the book, I would probably give it to Mom to add to her collection where the rest of us could borrow and enjoy as well.
I certainly am a pessimist when it comes to entering giveaways…but I suppose it won’t hurt to try again to win this book. Maybe I should just stick with the guaranteed way after this.
I love to read Dorcas’s writing. Would be delighted to win!
Dorcas Smucker is my favorite author. Have you written any books? I enjoy reading your blog.
No, I haven’t. Thanks for reading. 🙂
Dorcas and her family are one of the bright spots in life!! And Shari, I’m a minister’s wife also… I come read your blog when I want to feel ‘normal’ 😉 Love your humanness…
🙂
I enjoy reading Dorcas’ blog (and yours as well!) and I’d love to read her book.
There is never too many books! I would love to read this one!
Dorcas spoke at my church back in the days when I had one small child that never seemed to stop screaming and a small voice in my head telling me it must be my fault. I’ve read her blog ever since. I’d love this book.
Oh, yes! Another try at winning this book. Certainly this will be the ticket.
Taking a stab….
A chance at owning this book for free?! Of course I have to try!
I don’t have much time to read these days, but sounds like a good book to have beside my rocker when I put the baby to sleep. 🙂
I guess I’m taking the whimsical route, again! I’d love to win this book!
I would be delighted to win this book!
This book looks fantastic, thank you for the chance to win a copy!
I have already ordered three copies of this book for gifts…but winning a copy would allow me to spread the joy a little further.
You and Dorcas both have the gift of painting with words; y’all are my favorite bloggers.
Me! Thanks ?
If your giveaway is still open, thank you for the chance to win Dorcas’ book. Her blog and yours are my favorites of the handful that I still follow.
Yes ma’am, open until Friday! 🙂 Thank you.
I love dorcas smucker’s books!
Pick me! Pick me! 🙂 Thanks for this chance to win!
I’d love to win. Along with over 125 other people.
Me! Me! Me!
Ahem.
May I win this book please?
Sounds like a interesting book to read!
I’ve entered to win Dorcas’s new book a dozen times. Think this will be the lucky one?
I’d love to win the book too. Thanks Shari for sharing with us in this way and with your blog. I enjoy reading it.
I just realized this evening that it’s been awhile since I read Dorcas’s blog and when I did I discovered the giveaways. I hope I’m not too late! I would love to win this book but if I don’t I can always buy it. ?
Can’t wait to read her new book!
Coming in at the eleventh hour… or maybe it’s passed. I’m still recovering from a literal Thanksgiving week and could use some fragrant whiffs. Thanks for giving me a chance.
You made it just in time. 🙂 And yes, that’s my baby all grown up.
Oh, and is that your baby?! She has such a grown-up look. Adorable.