Issues and autos

Life around home, People

My husband is a great man. He’s smart, talented, articulate, and well-informed about the world. I believe in his character and leadership, trusting him implicitly (at least 60% of the time, faking it the last 40) to make good decisions for the welfare of our family. You would think that with so much brilliance at […]

September 3, 2013

A tale of two gentlemen


Confession: I have extremely archaic ideas about male behavior. I know they are archaic, but I hold to them stubbornly nonetheless. ***** I stood in line at a busy supermarket, a cartful of groceries in front of me, my sister-in-law in line behind me. We stood there, chatting and waiting, comparing bargains. Waiting longer. Chatting […]

July 29, 2013

Thirty days of honor


Confession: Sometimes I am not very nice to him. Who would have guessed it, in the dreamy days when his voice on the phone was just the sound I longed to hear, nourishing a place deep inside me? Who would have guessed it, in the blissful days of leisurely picnics, happy reunions, endless hours of […]

July 1, 2013

Back home

Out and about

More Free Advice to Men: (Married men this time. All you single guys can breathe for now.) If you ever want to make the world drop its jaw— — and I mean really — — send your wife on a four-day trip without the kids. Your self-confidence will grow. Your wife will wrap herself around […]

April 19, 2013

I speak for the trees


I speak for the trees, for the trees have no tongues. —Dr. Seuss ***** Dear Ladies, Having written a note to the other half of the species, I would like to direct a comment your way as well. Once upon a time I tried to convince my four-year-old son Aarick, who was in danger of […]

March 2, 2013



Dear Gentlemen, Not too many of you read this blog, and even fewer are single; but I know some of you out there, and perhaps you could help pass the word to your compadres. Did you know that most single women are not single by choice? Love, Shari Zook

March 1, 2013


Out and about

Confession: My husband and I* cannot navigate in Holmes County. *We are together for better or for worse. Otherwise I might have to point out, as I did in the moment, that it wasn’t I who … but I digress. It doesn’t help that all the roads were originally cowpaths. Cows are great at finding […]

February 16, 2013

Shopping for guys


Oh my word. I think that came out wrong. I meantasay, shopping for *gifts* for guys. ***** Confession: I think men are impossibly difficult to buy gifts for. I don’t understand this about myself. I love giving gifts. I love selecting gifts. I love brainstorming gifts. But when holiday time rolls around for my husband, […]

February 4, 2013

Dropping eaves

Out and about

Confession: Last night I deliberately eavesdropped on the public conversation of two gentlemen. Disclaimer 1: I rarely eavesdrop. Disclaimer 2: And I never eavesdrop on private conversations. It’s against my code of conduct. If I notice you engaged in one, I will hum as I walk by, to block sound waves from reaching me and […]

May 19, 2012