What I’ve *not* learned in marriage


People

This is the finale of a little series on marriage. Start at the beginning here. How to make firm decisions in his absence How to enjoy giving him gifts of really-boring-guy-stuff-that-he-knows-he’s-getting-because-he-picked-it-but-he-still-wants-badly How to stop talking when we’re on a date How to spend without guilt the money he earned for us How to make excuses for […]

June 9, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to worship


People

Confession: It took me a long time to circle around to the most basic marriage secret of all. I don’t mean here on my blog. I mean in actual living. If my marriage is to be successful (radiant, life-giving, and permanent), I have to believe my husband is the best thing since sliced bread. NO […]

June 8, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to wait


People

Confession: The other day I was texting with two friends at once. This is quite a feat for me, a slow texter. Fortunately, we were group messaging. Unfortunately, they were talking circles around me. We were contemplating whether the rewards of attending a ladies’ seminar together would be worth the gigantic hurdles of a) the […]

June 7, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to be direct


People

Confession: Not many years ago, when I was young, I was under the impression that the best way to ask a favor or broach a difficult subject was to sidle up to it gently. I always preferred to drop enough hints about where I was heading that the other person could a) offer the adjustment […]

June 6, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to give sometimes


People, Promoted

Let’s say that the mister and missus are going outside to dig in the yard. Maybe she needs a new flowerbed, or maybe the septic system is acting up again. One of their two shovels is a little unwieldy; the other is the perfect size, strong and reliable, with a comfortable handle grip.
WHO GETS THE BETTER SHOVEL?

June 5, 2017

Date night conversation starters


Celebrations

I am aware that for every one of you who said “refreshing” on my last post, there were probably three or four who thought “alarming.” So thank you for being gentle. I’m not brewing up any more of it at the moment, and I wasn’t saying that doubt is a thing to be glorified or […]

February 14, 2017