Sister series, part 4

People / Wednesday, June 6th, 2012


…taught me how to be brave.

You wouldn’t know it today, but when we were growing up she was my frightened little sis, and I had to be strong for her.

[Enter strange noise in the night]

Her: Shari! What was that?

Me (calm, reassuring voice): Oh, probably just an owl saying goodnight.

I don’t remember any real phrases I used to explain disturbances away, but I remember this happening a lot. I would simply spin a cool scenario, knowing full well that it was not likely that, whatever it was… but also that it was nothing to fear. And we’d both relax.

I give her partial credit, at least, for this fact: Although I have a boatload of insecurities, I cannot think of one thing in the world that I fear happening to me.

These days, she is a pretty tough cookie herself. She faces foes I never had to deal with, and they have made her strong. I am in awe!


…has pushed me a little farther down two paths:

that of honesty, with her courage to cry in situations that make me shut down, like Jean’s cancer or a silly faux pas at dinner…

and that of loving other people’s children like your own.

She’s always so good with my kids: asking about them, talking with them, mothering and celebrating them just as much as her own boy.

I rediscovered this picture yesterday, from the one week in my life in which I got to snuggle her son, my first blood nephew, and I desperately need to see him again.

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Mom Coblentz
10 years ago

Beautiful, Shari!! And to think that both these girls belong to me, along with You and Rose. I’m a blessed woman!

10 years ago

Oh, this made me laugh out loud! Don’t know if I’ve ever thanked you for all those times you calmed and reassured me. You were an awesome person to grow up with. (Yes, even when you’d push me out of bed, and I’d be hoppin’ MAD!!!) 🙂 This pic makes me miss Jaden so much. I can almost feel again how cuddly he was.

Mom Coblentz
10 years ago
Reply to  Jean Nisley

sorry April, i didn’t mean to leave you out of the foursome, I love you too! P.S.(this was actually Ted!) 🙂 i’ll let her say her piece too!

Mom Coblentz
10 years ago

Here’s my piece…I can’t believe I did that!! April is an awesome daughter-in-law and should never be left out of anything ‘family’. Sorry, April.