The secret life of Ryan Zook


Celebrations

When I awake early on Valentine’s Day I am alone It takes a moment to remember why. Oh yes. Early ministers’ meeting.   Often at night I wake to find him gone Or wake to find him returning. I expect him to be warm, come from checking on the kids Or using the bathroom But […]

February 14, 2018

In which things go to pot


Life around home

For Christmas he bought me an Instant Pot An instant best husband of the year pot And my delight has been, in ongoing ways, unbounded For Christmas I bought him Or rather, we bought us The game of Catan An instant route to all manner of marital stress and difficulty   So that was pretty […]

January 12, 2018

How we met


People

One of the reasons I’ve been thinking about marriage so much is that I was asked to write a guest post on Bethany Eicher‘s blog about “How We Met” – the story of Ryan and I. So if you’re in the mood for a romantic story, not too sappy I hope, and not without its […]

June 13, 2017

What I’ve *not* learned in marriage


People

This is the finale of a little series on marriage. Start at the beginning here. How to make firm decisions in his absence How to enjoy giving him gifts of really-boring-guy-stuff-that-he-knows-he’s-getting-because-he-picked-it-but-he-still-wants-badly How to stop talking when we’re on a date How to spend without guilt the money he earned for us How to make excuses for […]

June 9, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to worship


People

Confession: It took me a long time to circle around to the most basic marriage secret of all. I don’t mean here on my blog. I mean in actual living. If my marriage is to be successful (radiant, life-giving, and permanent), I have to believe my husband is the best thing since sliced bread. NO […]

June 8, 2017

What I’ve learned in marriage: to wait


People

Confession: The other day I was texting with two friends at once. This is quite a feat for me, a slow texter. Fortunately, we were group messaging. Unfortunately, they were talking circles around me. We were contemplating whether the rewards of attending a ladies’ seminar together would be worth the gigantic hurdles of a) the […]

June 7, 2017