What I’ve learned in marriage: to be direct


Confession: Not many years ago, when I was young, I was under the impression that the best way to ask a favor or broach a difficult subject was to sidle up to it gently. I always preferred to drop enough hints about where I was heading that the other person could a) offer the adjustment […]

June 6, 2017


Life around home

I guess you know that even when I’m not writing here, I am always writing, in some form or another? Here’s a glimpse into a few things I’ve sent to others in the last week or two. To a dear sis-in-law: Aw I LOVE the air plant you sent me! And that cute little log […]

May 5, 2017

Perambulations inspired by a spider

Brain things

Today begins a week’s worth of daily, pre-scheduled blog posts. This will clear my written but unpublished backlog and make a valiant attempt at ending the navel-gazing I’m fighting this spring. I’m sorry the posts don’t really ask much of you; that feels a little selfish but I can’t fix it right now. Thank you […]

May 4, 2017

The key to communication found MIA

Life around home

So last night I had a dream in which Ryan was talking to a group of men about the challenges of communicating with women. He was acting out the roles, the way he can be toodling along in a conversation and then suddenly blind-sided by a sharp question from his wife. POW! Ryan staggered around […]

March 13, 2015

When talking with women


No, I haven’t forgotten. And yes, I offered the opportunity of writing this post to my husband, who laughed out loud. “No, really,” I said, “would you?” “I know better than that!” he said. So I waited. Two days later I asked him again. He looked startled and said “Goodness, when?” Which being interpreted is, […]

November 10, 2014

The fifth suggestion

Life around home, People

I forgot one crucial piece I was going to mention about communicating with men. 5. Round up. Not like a cowboy, like a mathematician. He means well, it just sounds different in manspeak. Round it up to the closest equivalent.  Hm. = I’m listening, keep talking.  Aw. = You poor dear girl, I can only […]

October 20, 2014