The secret life of Ryan Zook


When I awake early on Valentine’s Day I am alone It takes a moment to remember why. Oh yes. Early ministers’ meeting.   Often at night I wake to find him gone Or wake to find him returning. I expect him to be warm, come from checking on the kids Or using the bathroom But […]

February 14, 2018

In defense of foster parents

Foster care, Promoted

We can’t tell you what we’ve seen, because it would be violating section nine of code-code something-something, but we’ve seen it and we can’t unsee it. Our children carry deep and lasting pain because somebody who was supposed to protect them hurt them.

February 9, 2018

Practical ways to teamplay with bio parents

Foster care

This is a continuation of my last post, In Defense of Bio Parents. Confession: Everybody says that foster care is “all about the child,” but the truth is that in my county it is all about the bio family. That means every reasonable effort will be made to a) avoid removing the child from his […]

February 8, 2018

In defense of bio parents

Foster care, Promoted

If we dare to meet your eyes at this moment, it would help so much if we could see in them that you respect us – not because of what we’ve done or left undone, but because we are fellow humans going through the worst days of our lives. If you think we don’t care, or don’t feel, or don’t know this, you are wrong. We really, really messed up; and we do not expect to find mercy in this place.

February 6, 2018

Books about issues


Confession: I simply must recommend books more often. I now find myself with nearly a year’s worth of good reading I want to share. For today, let’s talk nonfiction: books highlighting current issues and recent stories. Interestingly enough, every book in this post was published since 2000, which leaves me feeling compelled to get the […]

January 31, 2018

My response

Brain things

Thank you so much for your confessions and insights on social media in the past week. They brightened my days with adult thoughts. You had good things to say; thank you for saying them, and for being honest about the questions you have and the temptations you struggle with. (Long winded is my favorite, FYI.) […]

January 30, 2018